My white flag might be flying and it might look like surrender but really its just giving me the right place to smile.

Bad days

Looking after Tam and myself can be tough. Over the past few days it has been really tough. Yesterday Tam was sick. Nothing he had eaten that I can blame but he kept purging for hours and it became too much. I pleaded with him to go to bed and rest as I was not…

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Be Good to Yourself

One of the things I was told early on in this journey was to “be good to yourself”. I was told this by medical professional, social services, friends, Tams teachers. At the time I could not see how to do this and also what difference it would make. I really could not see how to…

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One of the best ways for me to learn is to reflect on my actions and look for progress in as many ways as I can. This process can be a bit rough as I am no where near perfect and if the truth be known I am a pretty faulty version of what is…

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Mental Health

Mental health is as important as physical health. It can effect your physical health.

Tam being cheeky

Finding Answers

Finding answers to behaviours can be difficult, sometimes being wrong helps

Tam Crawling


empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/ noun: empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. A lot of my time at the moment is trying to see things from Tams point of view. Trying to understand what he is feeling, what is going through his mind, what is causing him to act a particular way. This…

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Quilliam Brothers Breakfast


Birthday breakfast and learning to take a breath.