What has worked?

I am going to start off by saying I am nothing special. I am a dad nothing more nothing less. My brain is analytical, it’s good at pattern matching and fire fighting. Give me a bad IT situation and I will find a way to get it back to a good situation. I know I…

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Miss you more everyday

2 Years have passed and you are missed more every day my love. Its 2 years since we touched and talked and those 2 years have been the hardest of our lives. Tam is growing so fast, I think he would be taller than you now. Right now his hair is not as short as…

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Its giftmas day. No decorations no wishing a happy giftmas. Tam slept pretty bad last night, lots of waking and crying. A couple of minor fights, a few scratches but I did get him back to sleep each time. I managed to have a couple of hours but I spent most of the time watching…

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Failure with a capital F

Today should have been Tams last day at school before the christmas break. It ended up not being that way.This morning he was spun up and running on empty after not getting much sleep. The time came to get ready and all hell broke loose. He got really upset and screaming. Asking for tight cuddles…

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Christmas stress

Its been a while since I have posted anything to the blog. The main reason being is that things have been very difficult. Christmas is bringing a lot of reaction from Tam that is at times difficult to deal with and heartbreaking. I have had to unplug the TV aerial because the christmas adverts are…

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One of the best ways for me to learn is to reflect on my actions and look for progress in as many ways as I can. This process can be a bit rough as I am no where near perfect and if the truth be known I am a pretty faulty version of what is…

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Mental Health

Mental health is as important as physical health. It can effect your physical health.

Tam being cheeky

Finding Answers

Finding answers to behaviours can be difficult, sometimes being wrong helps