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In Loving Memory

Just After Christmas 2017 our world collapsed. Bev, my partner and my son’s mummy died very suddenly. Tam saw his mammy go from holding his hand and cuddling him to me performing CPR and the next day seeing her for the last time. This blog is a bit of our journey, struggles and successes. I hope that if you invest your time in reading it that you get something from it and hopefully in some way it helps you.

Alan and Tam

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18Nov

Sleep

This weekend has been terrible for sleep. Tam has soldiered on with about 4 hours
16Nov

Week End 15 Nov

The past week has been a tough week in comparison to the previous week. Tam
15Nov

Week ending 8th Nov

The past week has been a good one. Starting Monday to Friday morning Tam slept
Ready for school
04Nov

Half Term

Been a tough half term. Sleep is still the toughest part for us.
Berries
27Oct

Mental Health

Mental health is as important as physical health. It can effect your physical health.
Tam being cheeky
27Oct

Finding Answers

Finding answers to behaviours can be difficult, sometimes being wrong helps
23Oct

Simple things need work

Simple things sometimes have an army of people working in the background so that it looks simple. Really they
Tam Oct 19
17Oct

Change

A change is as good as a rest, that’s a saying I have always appreciated
Respite Play
16Oct

Pros & Cons of Repsite

One of the biggest steps I have taken with Tam is putting him into respite.
Me and Tam
13Oct

Separation Anxiety

I have spent quite a lot of time looking into any information that I can
13Oct

blown away

Tam has just blown me away and made me cry in the best possible way.
Tam Crawling
11Oct

Empathy

empathy /ˈɛmpəθi/ noun: empathy the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. A
Bev and Tam
24Sep

Tams Birthday

Tams birthday and more anger from him
Newcastle Sunrise
22Sep

5am

5am and Tam is petrified to sleep.
19Sep

How far have me come?

September is tough. Birthdays all the way. One left and its important to do the right thing. What is
Quilliam Brothers Breakfast
12Sep

Birthdays

Birthday breakfast and learning to take a breath.
09Sep

In Loving Memory

Today is an angry day, tomorrow is a sad day. Grief knows how to really
Bev and Tam
04Sep

Taking a breath

Tam is back at school and I am catching my breath.
Bev and Tam
31Aug

September

September, its going to be a rough month. All of the birthdays happen in September.
Tam at night
24Aug

Sleep

Some times you have to be thankful for the peace and forget about trying to sleep.
Bev and Tam
23Aug

Form Filling

DLA forms are the worst things in the world of forms
Longhair
26Jul

The hardest haircut

Having a haircut for an autistic person is never easy. When you have not had your hair cut for
Our Cinema
25Jul

Cinema Again

Cinema visit, low expectations of being meltdown free. Best result.
24Jul

Panic Attacks

Panic attacks, and being good to yourself
20Jul

And the holidays begin

Tomorrow is Tam’s last day at what I would call junior school. He moves up
Respite Play
18Jul

Respite Part 2

Dropping Tam off at the respite centre was hard, especially after being at the beach
Day at the beach
17Jul

Emotional Day

A big day, beach and respite for the first time
3D printed
14Jul

Toys

Toys, Fidget Toys any toys that work.
14Jul

Cinema Visit

Today we went to the cinema. We went to a relaxed viewing which means the
10Jul

Silent Illness

Any parent knows that when their child is ill that it is the most worrying
02Jul

No miracle cures

This is a subject I was going to stay away from but I have had
Eyes
01Jun

Introduction

I am not totally sure of my reasons for writing a blog or a book